Due to the influence of the new coronavirus, more and more companies are taking work styles such as telework. As of June 29, 2020, the state of emergency has been lifted, but there is an increasing trend to continue teleworking and officially introducing teleworking due to concerns about infection due to movement.
Working from home is not all good. Especially if you live with your family, it will make a big difference for you and your family. And when I work from home, I have trouble with my family living together. It becomes stressful and has an adverse effect.
We have introduced telework since July 2017, before the Corona disaster. I will write about how to deal with troubles with my family that I experienced while working as a teleworker for about 2 years. I hope that the introduction of telework will lead to the solution of those who have troubles with their families and stresses on their families.
Family structure of my home
First, I would like to introduce my family structure. The family consists of my wife (housewife), son (4 years old), daughter (2 years old), and me.
Telework changes not only your own environment but also your family's environment
With the introduction of telework and working from home, not only will your own environment change, but your family’s environment will also change. My wife says that it feels awkward just because there are people who aren’t usually at home during the day.
My wife has a wife’s routine, and my child has a child’s routine, which is usually done smoothly between my wife and my child, but with my husband (I) in there, the flow so far Has changed, which seems to have been stressful for the family.
Trouble with family due to telework
I think there are many troubles with family members that come up when doing telework.
Get angry with the child
In my case, this was the most stressful. Based on the idea that I have to do it when I work, when a child makes a noise or enters the room, I lose my concentration and get frustrated and explode.
Asked for errands on the premise of being at home
I go out when I have a meeting with a customer, but since I work from home for about 70% of the week, my wife said, “I’m looking at my child for a while” and “The vacuum cleaner doesn’t work.” , I’m asked to do something with something. “I’m working here …”, I was frustrated and helped.
It’s hard to stay at home
When my child made a noise, I got angry, and when my wife asked me to do something, I got frustrated, and I couldn’t work anymore. Gradually, I was wondering, “I’m working for my family, why am I getting in the way?”, And it’s getting harder to stay at home.
Trouble solution and concrete plan
The solution is that I’ve come to think that I’m not great at work.
At home, my wife is my wife and my job is washing and cleaning. Children are children, and their job is to cry, play, make noise, and get angry. I realized that I wasn’t the only one doing the work, but the work given to each family member.
Since I am working, I have come to think that it is different to think that the family should be quiet and careful about themselves who are working.
After I realized that, I wasn’t too frustrated with my family. I’ve been teleworking for two years and have had a lot of trouble with my family. It is not 0 now, but there is almost no trouble compared to the peak time.
However, there are some situations where you need the help of your family while working. The cooperation request method I am implementing is
1. Share your work schedule with your family
From my family’s point of view, I wanted them to let me know in advance whether they were at home or not, so I decided to write a schedule on my family’s calendar when I knew as much as possible. By doing so, he tried to do a large-scale cleaning of the house, aiming for the day when I was not there.
Since it became a telework and the number of online meetings has increased, even in online meetings, by letting me know that it is a meeting from time to time, I have become more concerned about not talking during this time.
2. When work is jammed, tell them that it is jammed
If you have a task that you need to focus on, tell your family that “Today is the crucial moment for your work” in the morning or noon of the day so that your family doesn’t talk to you more than necessary. Even if I was a little fluttering, I came to understand that “Oh, I said I was stuck today.”
From the perspective of the family, it is easier to get in touch with them because they can understand the situation if they give a little explanation instead of putting away the day with just one word of work.
- With the introduction of telework, the environment of the person who works from home and the environment of the family living together will change.
- The family who stayed at home has a family routine so far, and it is stressful that the flow changes due to the presence of the master in telework.
- I don’t think that I am the greatest person working from home, but that I have a job given to each family member.
- When you want to cooperate, share the schedule, there are tasks that you have to concentrate on, etc. It may be easy, so try to communicate with your family.
We hope that you will be able to work in good cooperation with your family when you do telework.